The last two years have been very difficult for our family. In just a year, we have lost a brother and our mother. I am the oldest of five children with two sisters and two brothers. I've lost many people in my life, and I've learned that we grieve differently depending on the relationship. Losing a sibling has been so very hard, and then losing my mom just a year later has added a different dimension to the grieving process that I am still experiencing.
Through the loss of so many loved ones in my life, I have found that we all grieve differently and that we cannot expect anyone else to feel the same we do. I have learned that asking "why?" is normal, but that we cannot move through the grief if we get stuck in the "why". We may never know why someone passed so young, or so tragically, or so quickly, but we have to focus on what we do know. I know that these people I have lost were Christians and that I will be reunited with them some day in heaven. I know that they loved me and that they knew I loved them. And I know that I am cherishing my time with the loved ones still in my life and am not taking them for granted.
If you are dealing with the loss of someone you love, you can have peace if you will give all of the feelings you experience to the Lord. It's normal to experience all of these feelings- hurt, loneliness, anger , so don't feel guilty about how you feel. But know that He is there for you.
Hang in there. There is so much healing still to come and no set time for it. Day by day and sometimes moment by moment we go through different stages of grief, and that's ok. Let Jesus have those painful moments and allow your tears to fall - they are healing. Crying is not a sign of weakness but a releasing of more than we can hold.
Ecclesiastes 3
3 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
And He promises to turn our mourning into dancing. Give yourself time.
But just don't get stuck in the "why". You still have your life to live.
Through the loss of so many loved ones in my life, I have found that we all grieve differently and that we cannot expect anyone else to feel the same we do. I have learned that asking "why?" is normal, but that we cannot move through the grief if we get stuck in the "why". We may never know why someone passed so young, or so tragically, or so quickly, but we have to focus on what we do know. I know that these people I have lost were Christians and that I will be reunited with them some day in heaven. I know that they loved me and that they knew I loved them. And I know that I am cherishing my time with the loved ones still in my life and am not taking them for granted.
If you are dealing with the loss of someone you love, you can have peace if you will give all of the feelings you experience to the Lord. It's normal to experience all of these feelings- hurt, loneliness, anger , so don't feel guilty about how you feel. But know that He is there for you.
Hang in there. There is so much healing still to come and no set time for it. Day by day and sometimes moment by moment we go through different stages of grief, and that's ok. Let Jesus have those painful moments and allow your tears to fall - they are healing. Crying is not a sign of weakness but a releasing of more than we can hold.
Ecclesiastes 3
3 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
And He promises to turn our mourning into dancing. Give yourself time.
But just don't get stuck in the "why". You still have your life to live.